Ways to reinforce positive behavior:
There are several tips, techniques, and ways to use positive reinforcement for children's behavior. Positive reinforcement methods for children depend on following some educational tips first, including:
Set an example of your kindness:
Because the environment is the best teacher for children, and what your child observes and what you do and say will inevitably imitate it.
Attention to the child:
Listen to your children without interruption and without prejudice, because listening is a powerful tool that makes your child feel important, which increases his self-confidence.
Keep your word with the child:
Children understand the simple logic of specific simple words such as: “yes” and “no”, but adults complicate it with “maybe”, “I might buy you this toy if I make your bed” ..!
Be careful with the child:
And keep away from him the stimuli of the negative behavior that you want to discourage in him, such as preventing him from tampering with your valuables by hiding them or keeping them out of his reach.
Learn to say "no" to the child:
You don't have to agree to everything a child wants, in doing so you will be giving him the wrong signals to obey you.
Do not give lectures and sermons to the child:
Stop teaching your kids what to do, leave it up to them and you'll be surprised what your kids can do, especially if they know what to expect from a positive behavior.
Do not give names to the child:
Labeling your children as misbehaving, less intelligent, or any kind of negative labels and titles, will build negative feelings in the child, which will discourage them from doing better.
Show him your feelings.
Tell your child honestly how his or her behavior affects you, and if you start sentences with “I,” this gives your child the opportunity to see things from your point of view. For example, "I feel upset because there is so much noise and I can't talk on the phone."
Praise your child:
When your child behaves the way you want him to, praise your child for example, “Oh my God, you are playing great. I really like the way you keep all the blocks on the table. Try to give your child five positive comments for every negative comment.
Keeping promises:
When you keep your promises, good or bad, your child learns to trust and respect you. Your child also learns that you won't let them down when you promise something nice. Your child also learns not to try to change your mind when you explain the consequences. So when you promise to go for a walk after your child picks up his toys, you must be ready. When you say you will leave the library if your child does not stop running, prepare to leave immediately.
Give your child clear, age-appropriate instructions:
Instructions should be clear, short and age-appropriate, so that your child can understand and remember them. Positive rules are usually better than negative ones, as they direct your child's behavior in a positive way. For example: "Please close the gate" is better than "Don't leave the gate open."
Give your child a chance to succeed:
Have your child behave well, and then praise him for it. For example, ask your child to do some simple work or things that your child can do to help the family, then praise him and encourage him to continue.
Prepare for difficult situations:
If you are doing a certain activity with your child, such as shopping or playing and you have to stop him to do something urgent, give your child a warning 5 minutes in advance and explain to him that you have to finish the activity within 5 minutes.
Now, here are some different ways you can positively reinforce the behavior in a child:
- the like.
- Offer praise.
- Hugging or patting on the back.
- Thumbs up.
- clapping and cheering.
- Tell another adult how proud you are of your child's behavior and the child listens to you.
- Granting additional privileges.
- Give tangible rewards.
You may want to reinforce some behaviors more than others, such as:
- Words that show good manners, such as the child saying: “Please” and “Thank you.”
- Play quietly.
- wait patiently.
- Play nicely with a younger brother.
- Immediately comply with your request.
- Putting a lot of effort into a difficult task.
- Complete chores, such as arranging games or finishing homework.
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